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all black outfit ideas - self reflection

This year I’m turning 27, which means 3 more years until I’m 30. Naturally, I’ve done plenty of reflection on myself, my past, my experiences, and what I really want and need to accomplish to make myself feel happy, content, and truly satisfied. Because I’ll be reaching a milestone fairly soon, I’m feeling (besides old!) a little nostalgic, empathetic, and need to share what I’ve learned with you. So here goes a few things I wish my 17 year old self understood.

– Advice I Would Give My 17 Year Old Self –

  1. No one is going to care what you wore, how you acted, who you were friends with, or what you did with your free time ten years from now. (And if they do, well then they’d better start looking for a more fulfilling life). Being yourself never goes out of style. Neither does doing what makes you happy, instead of constantly doing what others want you to do.
  2. No one person or thing can make you happy, except yourself. Not a man, not a baby, not even a fur-baby (even though they totally help), not a best friend, not superficial items, substances, not even family. You have to find what your soul needs, what energizes you and keeps your imagination running freely to move forward and find your best self.
  3. People will come and go, but you will remain the only constant in your life. People you thought you would see your entire lives, the ones you thought you couldn’t live without, and even the ones that caused you way too much stress, will most likely find a different path at some point. Moral of the story, it’s important to find whatever lights the fire in your soul, what makes you want to live and never let it go.
  4. Emotions, feelings, and mental states are all temporary. The sadness you feel from a break up, loss or death, being fired, or a vicious fight, is all temporary. Depression never lasts and neither does anxiety. To enjoy life, we have to remain self aware and understand our emotional stressors to move forward.
  5. Quality over quantity. In clothes, shoes, bags, but also time with friends, family, experiences, travel, and memories. If you’re always distracted, you will miss out on the memories you should have in the future. At the end of the day, remembering how someone made you feel and the laughs you had with them is more important than checking your feed.
  6. Do not give up. Things change – you will change, your environment, intelligence, motivation, goals and reactions will change, if you want them to. Being able to understand yourself and your actions is one of the most important things life has taught me. Just because one thing goes wrong in the day, doesn’t mean the entire day has gone to sh*t. Changing your thought process to thinking positively, or at least TRYING to, will keep your spirits and energies high. I used to laugh at people who said this, but it has changed my life.
  7. Learn to love yourself. Before you can commit to anyone else or feel a true sense of fulfillment, you need to love yourself inside and out, and who you are as a person. Accepting our flaws and inviting self improvement is a big step. This is the only way to bring yourself happiness.

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all black outfit with statement accessories - self reflection

– Shop The Look –

Ready for the outfit story? Me too. So I bought these super cute velvet leggings on sale and I think they’re a fabulous fall item! They look amazing with something simple that flows easily but also lets the velvet stand out. Velvet bottoms can be paired with OTK boots, booties, slip-on loafers, they match with everything. I paired them with my mock-neck tank that I’ve been wearing nonstop. Thrift shopping, I found this GORGEOUS bracelet at a local boutique and grabbed my box clutch to match. The shopping links above have a few options for shoe colors, and similar bags. You can also shop my most recent posts here. 

Bauble chain crystal silver bracelet selfJoel Klampert Photography of Rhode Island was able to photograph me for this post. I absolutely loved working with him, his personality was amazing and I adore his photography style! You can creep his Instagram here. I highly recommend checking out his page and working with him if given the opportunity.

Let me know your thoughts in the comments below and what you’d like to see or read more of!